As a full-time employee of Image Cog, my boss has required me to join a networking chapter in order to better facilitate relations with other businesses and ultimately generate a two-way street of clients for both us and them. After multiple setbacks and mishaps, I finally engaged in an activity I never foresaw myself doing at this point in my life. If you’re thinking “sex,” then you are half right.
I was able to attend my very first networking meeting today. Severely unprepared and underdressed in my black button-down short-sleeved shirt and thigh-hugging black jeans I bought from Ginza in Tokyo, I made a fool of myself not having my business cards. Also, in a matter of time, I realized that I should have distinctly knew what it is that I, in the company, do, regardless of whether I own it or not. I was tastefully singled out by the man who had claimed me as he guest, referring to me as a “naughty boy” for not being properly equipped. I chuckled with everyone else; what else could I do. I didn’t think not bringing my business cards would be a big deal because I was just going to be visiting anyway. I also had to rework my thirty-second overview of how I explained the work that Image Cog does on the whole because there is already someone in the chapter who does websites and writing; having more than one individual in the same occupation in the same chapter for this particular organization is prohibited.
I was welcomed warmly enough, but having current members bringing in guests is a big deal. Seeing no one in the cafe yet again at 7AM, I stood outside until I was scooped up by someone who was coming in at the same time I was. He introduced himself, handed me his card, asked me twice if I was sure I didn’t have a business card, and was almost giddy over the fact that I should say that I am his guest. Good thing he did because a few members asked me who invited me, obliging me to recite his name with a bit of disdain. I truly felt like I was set up, but that’s how the business world works right?
The atmosphere was informal, yet professional, which was my expectation from the start when I chose this meeting in the first place. They did make a point to make everyone feel welcome. It’s mandatory to the extent of paying money out of your pocket that you have at least a tip or two for one of the members there, as the whole idea is to network and exchange business. I felt sorely out of place for the most part. The men were tall, dressed sharply in suit and tie, and generally close to middle-aged if not already there, while many of the women were married, confident, and also around middle-aged. Everyone was experienced in their occupation to some extent, and I just felt like some little kid everyone was laughing at behind their business facades.
Overall, it was a very stressful experience…To be honest, I’m having mixed feelings about the whole thing. Everyone I spoke to was kind to me, but at the same time there’s no one in my age bracket and with similar lacking aptitude. I know that this is good for me, but everyone is wise and tuned into the business culture while I’m fresh out of college. I do plan on having another visit, and maybe things will be different that time around. Right now though, I’m just concerned with whether I can snag an available occupation that won’t ’step on anyone’s toes.’
Just in case anyone is highly amused by the header image, I shopped it. This meme never gets old when used for good instead of evil.













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2007-08-15 at 13:27:48
Lifeslilreviewer
Just because no one was in your age bracket doesn’t mean that j00 can’t be a one-of-a-kind. Even in the business world. :P.
Maybe j00 should acquire more suits for next time…?
Other than that. Sounds like it was something that will leave first impressions. (then again…alot of things are like that…;P)
2007-08-15 at 20:59:05
Chessi
Ahem. Half-right about having sex my ass…
*blinks* ^^; ahehehehe.
Anyways, I wouldn’t worry too much about it. Age has nothing to do with it at all [although I understand it lending to feeling uncomfortable]. Still, it could have been much worse. Again, don’t think too hard on it. Just the first one anyways.
M’talking to you now, so I’m gonna quit typing XD
*kiss*
2007-08-15 at 21:39:54
storymode
Kiba: Yeah, I think you and Chessi have the right idea about it not having anything to do with my age. It’s just my lack of experience. Age never stopped me my entire life, as I have been ahead of the game.
I do need more dress clothes though…and clearly first impressions were left.
Chessi: What was that??? You want me to sex your ass?? I’m hard of hearing, sorry <3
*kisses back*
I haven’t thought too hard about, babe. No worries there. I just found it to be an learning experience that I would have rather not have had to go through. As you said, it’s just the first one. Having your love and support always is so very comforting though <3
2007-08-15 at 21:42:02
Chessi
O_______________________O
Oh.
My.
God.
I love you XD
2007-08-16 at 01:36:18
Jsy3k
Hi Alexiel,
Been a while since I last read your blog =)
But anyways, that happens, man. I got the same experience for one of my relative’s sweet 17 birthday in the past. I thought it is just like any other birthday party so I just dressed casually. Imagine my horror when I reach there, all of them are wearing suits and pants. Gosh, I thought I have mistaken the place as a wedding party, but I am at the correct place. In the end, my relative does not mind it, but well, imagine being in the crowd of suits and gowns and I am the only one with casual clothes…. Man, that is really a hellish experience.
So usually before I go to any party, I gave them a ring for dress codes. Sounds odd, but better than looking out of place =P
2007-08-16 at 01:38:07
xenocrisis0153
I was promised a story involving sex in some half-way, half-shape, or half-form. I got nothing of the sort. You sir, are a lighter!!
2007-08-16 at 13:03:12
storymode
Jsy3k: Thanks for stopping by, dude! ^_^ Though I was underdressed, I was at least wearing a button-down shirt and no sneakers, which does count for something – I was semi-formal. I haven’t attended a party in a very long time, let alone a formal event, but yeah…That’s a good habit to get into. I should have known better though.
Xeno: Hur hur. Silly Xeno; misinterpreting my innuendo literally =P And calling me a “lighter” on top of that? For shame! ^_^
2008-06-10 at 15:57:52
Ladd
I don’t carry business cards, so maybe it’s ok if you didn’t either.
When you hand someone a business card you are losing posture and placing the success of your business in their hands, will they ever really call you anyway? Hardly ever.
When you get a card from them and they don’t get one from you it removes the awkwardness of the follow-up. We know who’s court the ball is in, it’s in yours! So the call is expected.
When asked for my card I simply tell them that I don’t use them, or I may joke how I don’t believe in them,. Then politely ask for theirs and I always give them a tentative time to expect to hear from me.
You’d be surprised actually how many people I run into that do the same thing, I joke with them how I’ve found a ‘person who knows how to win’ then we exchange numbers in our cellphones.
Again I give them a tentative time to expect to hear from me.
I’m 27yrs old and I rock at what I do.
worth.worldventures.biz
2008-06-10 at 16:00:17
Ladd
p.s. side note (this is free)
I always make notes about them and our conversation on the back of their card when they walk away.
This helps later when you add them to your client tracker.
Good Luck
2008-06-10 at 16:22:27
Alex Ninamori
Great advice, Ladd! I can definitely see myself taking that sort of approach to face-to-face networking. I always thought that business cards were mandatory to show that you are, indeed, a legit, active company; that not having one was almost taboo. I do remain baffled at the logic a business person has to take in order to see results. I suppose the “whatever works for you” saying should apply in business also.
Thank you for taking the time to leave a useful comment. All the best in your future business ventures.